One of the most wonderful affirmations I have seen is the one that reads:
“I am a mother, daughter, sister, wife, niece, aunt, friend….survivor.”
It is a wonderful feeling to truly know who you are, and I am thankful, that through all that I have endured, I have had the opportunity to learn who I am. Yet though it all, I often wonder, how many people, other than myself, know the truth about who I really am?
If you are reading this, I would like for you to take a moment and ask yourself, “Do I know her?”
What if I am your daughter? Would it break your heart to read the words I have written here? If I were your sister, would it anger you that someone had tried to destroy someone so precious to you? If I were your niece, would you wonder what you could have done to protect me? If I were your friend, would you want to know what you could do to help me cope with the mental anguish that these secrets have caused?
Who knows, maybe you do know me. If you do, I would hope that you would do everything in your power to learn how to keep this from happening from someone else. If you don’t know me, I would hope that you would take a moment to think about how you would feel if I were the person that you love with all your heart. How would you feel to know that I had been hiding this secret all these years because I was afraid you would not love me anymore? What would you do to show me that I am not broken, and that I have no reason to be ashamed? Would you be willing to speak out on my behalf?
Sometimes we do not like to talk about things that are not pleasant, but remember that I (or your mother, sister, daughter, friend….) may have been, or may currently be a victim of abuse. As unpleasant as it may be to face that fact, remember that it is even harder for her to speak out, bearing her soul and hoping that she will find love, comfort, and respect in a world that had done her so much harm. Help her by learning the signs, gathering resources, and learning how to help her cope. Should the day ever come that she needs you, you will be there, and the love and comfort you share with her will give her the courage she needs to not only be your loved one, but to say that she has survived.